breathe in the crisp cold air,
feel the bite of the hard frost,
take time to walk along the river bank,
before it gets light,
watch the mist swirl on the water,
and the sun come up over the trees.
soul soothing.
beautiful flowers,
a lovely bright sunny sky at the graveside,
unbearably sad,
and yet it all felt perfect.
" a reet good send off" as one of his friends said.
and now we try to adjust and move on......................
There's no hurry to 'move on'. Take your time. Don't try to 'get over' it, try to live with it.
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Be gentle with yourself, dear friend. There will be those who will not understand weeks, months and even years from now when you "still" haven't adjusted. Too bad for them. I think it's only after the last strains of Amazing Grace and after the last casserole dish has been returned to its donor that the real grieving begins.
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It is so very difficult when we lose a loved one. Take time to grieve. That is something that cannot be hurried. Althgough you will never forget as time moves on you will find that the fond memories are the ones that will occupy your thoughts rather than the sad ones. Take it from one that knows.
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Thinking of you, Tess. Healing takes a long time - and there's nothing wrong with taking your time.
ReplyDeletethat was so special.
ReplyDeleteI'm helping a friend survive the awful devastating break up of her 21 year marriage. She will be 50 later this year & hard to reassure her that she will one day be happy again
Lots of good advice from your friends here Tess. Being very kind to yourself is important jus now and allowing yourself to 'feel' the emotions as they come in sometimes the most unexpected ways. There is a lovely book (children's but one of those books that spans the threshold of age) called Tear Soup which really helped when I went through the death of both mum and dad in the same year.
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I think Dragonfly is spot on with her comment. I believe you need to learn to 'accept' and that takes time. And when you can accept then you are able to adjust to your life following a slightly different path rather than moving on. Grieving is a lengthy process so try to be kind to yourselves.
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Life carries on in a different way but memories of your father-in-law will stay with you.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss! Hope you find comfort in your family and friends.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if you have come across 'Badger's Parting Gifts' by Susan Varley. It is a sensitive study of loss and grieving which is written for children but I have found it helpful as an adult.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of your loss and wish you time to reclaim all the happy memories and peaceful days.
Beautifully put, Tess... Let not your heart be troubled, friend... Take you time. Thinking of you all... ((BIG HUGS)) Oh, must say, LOVE the new banner. :o)
ReplyDeleteTake your time and take some comfort from the "reet good send off".
ReplyDeleteIt does get easier eventually - I promise.
Wonderfully put. Many hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteAllow yourself to feel the loss and do be kind to yourself. I'm so sorry x
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